We Are All One: The Law of Interconnection

The spiritual path takes us unequivocally towards several important truths. One of which is that we are all one.

This is not a new saying. I’m sure many of you have heard it before.

I’m sure many of you have used this phrase, but to really know this

from nose to toes

is a whole other thing.

In a spiritual awakening, someone can be thrust into this truth. Maybe they feel the profoundness of it. Maybe that feels good.

Maybe oneness is terrifying.

The little ego never wants to give up its sense of separation.

Spiritual Awakening Nonduality and Duality

However, people rarely abide there completely.

So there can be a bouncing in and out of that state of awareness for some people.

The experience of oneness, however, is not spiritual oneness itself.

As such, spiritual experience seekers often get trapped trying to replicate a specific experience of oneness.

But oneness is EVERYTHING.

However, the glimpse of awakening is powerful. A glimpse can cause someone to start their journey to understand themselves and to begin to question things.

The most important part is questioning oneself.

It is a powerful thing to touch this space of oneness and begin to appreciate the truth: that we are all interconnected.

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The Truth and Illusion of Connection

The truth of interconnection is that we’ve always been connected to one another and to all of the universe. The lie is that we need to do something to get connected again. In all the ways that we feel cut off, that cutting off is caused by us. It is our thoughts, fears, assumptions, unresolved childhood pain, wounds we’ve caused to others, unacknoweldged physical imbalances, and so much more.

Spiritual Awakening and Pain: The Torment of Internal Resistance

Pain, itself, is not separate from our life.

We are as much interconnected to pain as we are to pleasure.

The Divine Consciousness never comes along and says there is no pain in this world. The Divine never says that if we are feeling pain that we have failed on the spiritual path. The Divine embraces all. That is the nature of oneness. Nothing is left out. No one is going to a separate place called Hell for being bad. No one is placed above anyone else. The ocean of consciousness embraces all of us equally.

That is precisely its power.

That deep encompassing embrace naturally dissolves illusions. Again and again, when we try to cling to an illusion (especially in awakening), the pain of that holding on is felt, and the pain of resisting our own interconnection and oneness is felt.

Anywhere that we resist what life is, we are doing so from the illusion of the individual. While we have this lovely ability to play in a seemingly “independent” life as a human, we are deeply and ultimately connected to all things.

Our choices are much smaller (and bigger) than we understand.

Dropping More Deeply Into Oneness

Most people don’t know how to navigate the truth of oneness. As such, some people are overwhelmed by touching the truth. It seems like too much of a fairy tale. The major issues of security and fear of death are illuminated in countless people on the spiritual path. And most people would rather cling to their fears than have faith in the grandness of oneness. To be sure, it’s not a certain place.

Oneness doesn’t bring human certainty.

There is no certainty in the realm of duality, because in duality (the world we actively live and believe in where we are all separate beings), there is constant change. Connecting to oneness does not stop that constant change. Instead, it helps us to clarify the currents of duality we are in and how we chose to be in them. It gives us the awareness and perspective to get a sense of where we are going.

For instance, connecting to the profound love and joy of oneness shows us all the love that we have inside of us. The striving for external relationships and events to make us feel good gets illuminated as not only illusory, but counter-productive.

If you already feel good, you don’t need anything or anyone else to feel good.

The Joy of Not Needing Anyone or Anything

From this perspective, someone with a sugar addiction can see that they’ve only been eating the candy, ice cream, sugar-filled coffee, cake, cookies, and so forth to feel good–to feel loved. This person has the opportunity to stop this unhealthy behavior because they have the perspective to see that they’ve never been cut off from love. That’s part of the gift of dropping more deeply into oneness.

They also have the space to realize that their body does have true nutritional needs, and they can move towards addressing that instead of filling emotional emptiness with food.

Emotional Eating and Eating to Regulate Emotions

If someone drops deep enough into that space, then sometimes that type of change happens over night. They just stop eating those things.

However, it is much more common for someone to go back and forth between old unhealthy habits and the truth. Typically if the person is sincere on the spiritual path, it gets harder and harder to backslide (See more on this topic here: The Spiritual Backslide).

As a person works to stay in awareness, they notice how their body actually feels. They notice that they don’t feel good about eating these things. It may start to feel physically sickening, which is how the body often speaks with awareness about food. It was always speaking in this way, by the way.

But the body tries to adapt to whatever situation or nourishment we offer to it, and people are amazing at ignoring the reality they live in, including the health of their bodies.

Spiritual Oneness Experiences

Connecting More Easily to Others

Because we are all connected, I am you, and you are me. That means if I am living from love, there’s a general pull to help you live more from love because you are me. If I am living more from unconsciousness and pain, there’s a pull to bring you into more unconsciousness and pain.

It’s why us spiritual teachers talk so much about taking care of oneself to help the world.

The unconscious and self-avoiding ego wants to SAVE THE WORLD!

This type of individual, however, needs to save him or herself. By dealing with their issues, this person changes their behavior patterns through a process I call–re-imagining and repatterning.

I think therapy may call it re-parenting, but I don’t want to tread on their terminology. I also think very expansively of re-imagining and repatterning. That means doing things like

• recreating your relationship with yourself,
• redefining likes and dislikes,
• learning how to learn, and more.

Your new behavior patterns create a kind of “spiritual gravity” around you. It kind of is a force of nature (hence why I’m calling this a “law” of interconnection) to drop more deeply into and act from true love. This space of oneness naturally moves us in certain ways, and we move the ocean of consciousness in certain ways. If enough droplets get together, they form a wave. And you don’t have to try that hard. You just be you.

But how many of you really know who you are?

It’s why I sometimes ask my students the unenviable difficult but oh-so important question:

Who are you?

Who Are You Revealed

In oneness, you cannot hide. Connecting to all of life pulls you into a certain alignment. It’s like being a piece of puzzle finally fitting snuggly where you belong. Sometimes the ego understands. Sometimes it doesn’t understand. There are so many cultural lies we believe in on top of our experiences, broken communities, unhealthy lifestyles, and so forth.

When we stop fighting the ocean, we can see where we are in the ocean. We can surrender to our tiny little corner of the universe and look deeply into ourselves.

All is illuminated.

Coming Out of the Shadows of the Unconscious Ego

Because much of the unconscious ego likes to hide in the shadows, this tends to be really intense for people. The more a person is aligned with unconsciousness, the more upsetting connecting to the truth can be. They get to see their errors brightly lit in Divine neon lights. For some people, this kind of spiritual awakening leads to intense sickness and pain because that is what is there.

And that is what must be detoxed.

All the while, oneness embraces this detox. That’s why I like using ice metaphors. The ice may separate itself from the ocean. But it is still fundamentally water. No matter how much you separated yourself from the truth of oneness, your essence is still the same as all of the universe. You can and ultimately will be transformed back into that purest form just as the ice melts back into the water. Along the way, you are fully revealed in who you are:

A being both interconnected to everything and living the separate life of an individual–simultaneously dual and nondual.

Spiritual Revelations and Realizations Roll Through You

Not a Phrase for Silly Spiritual Slogans

We are all one is not a phrase for making us feel good.

More often than not, when people use it in that way, it is to avoid the bad feelings, the sense of separation, and whatever else someone is hiding from.

As I said, oneness takes us directly back to the source.

This takes us through all of our pain and troubles that have cut us off from seeing reality. Going through pain is not going around it. We generally have to re-experience it to let it go (although not always).

In facing our internal darkness, we are also embracing it. Because much like oneness, we have to embrace all of ourselves. Nothing is left out. No part of your lifestyle, thought pattern, career, love life, family situation, desire, lust, anger, irritation, anxiety, or anything is left out.

When we have left out nothing and no experience or trait within us is resisted, we become truly free.

Interconnected/Connected to the Fullness of Life

From realizing spiritual freedom, life as a human being opens up to its fullest. We see the depths of terror, pleasure, delight, and torment here, and we embrace it all as it is.

This is a profound space, and the more of us who move from this space, the more other people can see the reality of this.

Role-modelling inspires others.

Spiritual Leadership and Role-modelling

If you want to change the world away from terror and torment, then the first and only place to truly change is to surrender to that changeless space of oneness within you.

Updated (9.7.2025)