It can be a beautiful thing to find someone or someones to walk with you on your spiritual journey. Yet while there are lots of people talking about spiritual dating and relationships, I’ve yet to hear many people talk about spiritual dating and relationships in the context of spiritual freedom.

Understanding relationships through realizing spiritual freedom is powerful and empowering. For one thing, we realize that relationships DO NOT exist. Ultimately, in oneness, everything is one. Nothing is relating to anyone else else. It just IS.

Furthermore, in the human world, our relationships are nothing but fictions in our minds and the minds of others. I can call myself a spiritual teacher, but that is a fiction. It’s a made-up idea. You can call yourself one of my students, but that too is a made-up idea. You could not find a relationship between us if you tried.

However, in realizing that relationships do not exist, a whole world of empowerment, creativity, and discovery is unlocked. The reality of the non-existence of relationships as well as some other truths are things I intend to talk about in this class.

This is a class that I won’t offer much. I consider the other classes like the intro to spiritual freedom class to be much more important. So if you want to come, I encourage you to make time.

As usual, I’ll announce this class through my newsletter. You can sign up here:

Better Spiritual Dating and Relationships Class Description

Relationships are one of people’s most valued experiences. It’s neck and neck with work in terms of what people focus on, and so I appreciate that a lot of people are interested in the topic of spiritual dating and relationships.

However, most of the time, the concept of “spiritual” is another added layer of beliefs and expectations being added on top of all the other beliefs, attachments, and expectations that people bring to relationships. People want others to believe all kinds of things, and in today’s online environment, the absurdity of so-called spiritual beliefs is getting more and more extreme. And in that extreme, people find fewer and fewer people who share similar spiritual delusions. This ends up leaving a person feeling even more lonely on the spiritual path than ever before because their ego can’t find people who think the same way.

All those added beliefs and attachments are actually a deeper fall into illusion, only now it is being called spiritual!

This is not the path to spiritual freedom. On this path, we give up beliefs, expectations, and attachments. Instead of narrowing the people we feel that we can relate to, surrendering attachments actually opens us to more and more people.

Who should come to this class

  • Anyone who is single and interested in spiritual dating and relationships
  • Anyone interested in starting new relationships
  • Anyone who wants to understand how relationships and spiritual freedom relate

It’s okay if you are in a relationship right now. You are welcome to come. Bear in mind that changing relationship agreements requires ALL PARTIES involved to agree to it. Too often people try to change themselves to fix the relationship or to change others. This doesn’t work. 

I should add that I have no judgment of people’s romantic relationship styles nor your sexual and gender identities.

This class won’t be about how to fix your partner(s), find a soulmate, make your partner(s) believe what you believe, have a better sex life, or have the perfect relationship.

What you can learn at this class:

  • How relationships and oneness relate
  • The difference between transactional relationships and non-transactional relationships
  • How to let go of your attachments to romance
  • What being unattached in romance is like
  • How to take ownership of your part in a relationship
  • When you are creating more illusions and building spiritual ego in a relationship
  • How to begin to develop your language to communicate some of the above truths when you start a relationship

Here are some more posts to help you on this topic:

Do Relationships Block Spirituality?

The Joy of Not Needing Anyone or Anything

Specifics of the Better Spiritual Dating and Relationships Class

Here are the specifics of how the class works. 

  • One gathering on a Wednesday at 9 AM Pacific Time
  • Have a class of around 20 people
  • Meet online via Google Hangouts (this online video service is free)
  • Meet for 1 hour and 1/2
  • Most of the class will be a lecture style
  • There will be around 1/2 hr for people’s questions

The suggested donation is 50 USD for those who can afford it. For everyone else, it is whatever fits your budget. Please don’t donate until after we spoken and you’ve gone through the enrollment process. Signing up for my newsletter is NOT the enrollment process. That comes later.

If you have questions about this class, I’m happy to answer them. 

Once again, if you’re interested and aren’t on my free newsletter, you can sign up below. I’ll send out a specific newsletter when I’m ready to enroll people in the class.

In love and kindness,

Jim Tolles

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