People crave it.
And they’re terrified of it.
Because community requires a bunch of social strategies and understandings that are simply not being developed these days. Hiding behind screens has eroded peoples’ in-person communication abilities which are necessary to engage in meaningful discussions and resolve misunderstandings.
If you can’t speak meaningfully and resolve miscommunications in-person, then you CAN’T really be in community. When people are in community and lacking these abilities, those communities quickly fragment and fall apart with the smallest misunderstandings or problems.
Then pride gets in the way.
Oh pride. You suck.
Few people want to consider much less admit that they don’t know how to be in community. That pride leads us to further individualize in an already hyper-individualized society.
The way out?
We surrender pride and our ego.
And we accept that we all have a lot of learning to do to successfully form and sustain community. We accept that a lot of confusion, awkwardness, and fear will come up, and we collectively do the work.
Because on the other side of that is
a deep sense of connection
that people are longing for.