One of the ego’s most powerful threats is that you’re going to have to leave people if you seriously follow the spiritual path.
I hear this time and time again.
It’s a favorite threat of the ego.
Why do people believe it?
They believe it, for one thing, because they don’t like their relationship. They’re in something that they already want out of, but they’re afraid to leave because of social disapproval, financial concerns, worries about the impact on their children, and/or the general fear of the unknown.
In another scenario, they believe it because the emotions and body sensations of fear make the threat feel, well, threatening.
They believe it because someone told them that the spiritual path is a solitary path.
They believe it as a misunderstanding and projection of other fears they have.
They believe it because relationships–particularly committed partnerships–are now burdened with being everything to a person. This is opposed to other times in human history when a person would have had broader community support where a possible loss of one relationship would still mean a person had a dozen other people still supporting them.
They believe lots of things. The threat of losing people is clearly very powerful.
Spiritual Awakening and Transitional Relationships
What Is the Reality?
The reality is dependent on the individual.
Some people will leave you because you change.
What does that say about them?
Some people you will choose to leave because they only want to suffer and live in old painful relationship patterns. And you don’t want to reciprocate that suffering.
And you don’t want to make your children suffer with you if children are involved.
In other situations, relationships will greatly improve because you let go of more ego and can now embrace more of a person or people’s wonderful nature and accept more of their flaws.
Other relationships will stay the same.
And you can never predict how a lot of this will go.
Do Relationships Block Spirituality?
On the Right Ego Trail
One thing we can say for sure is that something is coming up when ego threats start coming out.
You’re on the trail.
Don’t be dissuaded by these threats of losing friends, lovers, romantic partners, husbands, wives, and others.
Breathe.
Come back to awareness.
And keep inquiring to get to the root cause of the fear.
