I’ve supported many people through healing, spiritual awakenings, realizations, and transformations since 2010.
I have seen A LOT happen in one-on-one work…
…for the people who surrender to the process.
To consciously surrender to a spiritual freedom teacher is a process unto itself. Hence, I usually recommend that people come to my online classes, get used to my no-nonsense teaching style, and learn about what the path to realizing spiritual freedom is.
Then apply what is recommended.
In applying what you learn from classes, you prepare yourself for deeper levels of connection and deeper internal understandings. Without preparation, most people resist, avoid, ignore, and otherwise sabotage one-on-one work.
Types of One-on-one Sessions
I offer a variety of types of sessions. I tune into where someone is, and we go from there. The sessions can be, but are not limited to:
- Consciously re-imagining your life after ego,
- Realizing choice and spiritual freedom,
- Inner work,
- Building a foundation to be a spiritual teacher or helper,
- Breathwork,
- Re-orientation to new experiences and realizations,
- Relaxation, and more.
Please come ready to work and expect no magic pills. Letting go of ego is a practice of coming back to awareness and disidentifying with your thoughts, emotions, and sensations. We do this thousands of times to build up that neurological muscle in our brain that can detach from any powerful experience to witness it.
From the space of awareness, we can choose our responses rather than being controlled by initial reactions. In this way, you are realizing spiritual freedom.
To realize this freedom requires dedication and sincerity. That’s what matters most in a student.
At its best, a one-on-one session is a catalyst. It helps to boost things into awareness, and I help to disrupt your ego loops. From there, it is up to you to follow that impetus wherever it takes you.
Interrupting Your Regularly Scheduled Ego
An Overview of Regular Spiritual Sessions
In many respects, I’m an Ego Reverse Engineer. I’m helping you to understand how you became the series of thoughts, emotions, and sensations that are your ego. We are hacking these systems together to unlearn them so that you are no longer ruled by them and the suffering that they create.
To do this spiritual work is not a one session fix. Instead, this work evolves over years. For the sincere student having regular sessions, the overview can look like:
0 to 3 months: Practicing the tools that are recommended and building a rapport.
3 to 6 months: Approaching and moving through challenging situations and experiencing proving points (proof that the simplicity of this work, works)
6 to 12 months: A combination of expansions and deeper issues coming to light (very dependent on the student). This is a time of re-choosing the work now that the student has experienced it and better understands what they are choosing.
1 yr to 3 yrs: Working through mid-level and deeper level issues. Typically, this timeframe is still filled full of backslides and resistance. A lot of ego defensive mechanisms are still being worked on. They interrupt the work with doubt, fear, pride, and shame.
3 to 5 yrs: Larger breakthroughs in releasing attachments arise, and doorways to core issues are opened. Bigger expansions occur along with greater clarity on just how much more crap and attachments are inside. The student has to choose more humility and choose the path again. The ego likes to stop work here because they are “good enough.” This is a time where a lot of work on re-imagining and re-patterning is needed.
6 to 7 yrs: Deeper re-commitments are needed again and again because of the more fundamental attachments and core issues that are revealed experientially. There aren’t as many new ideas and discoveries now. This is a time of basic revelations of what the fundamental attachments (such as the desire to be liked in society/approved of) are experientially doing in the body every day.
8 yrs and beyond: Working on hard coded social and biological tendencies. This student can do a lot on their own, but they typically stay working with me because there are very few people working on these things, much less spiritual teachers who are available to teach them about this space and be with them in it.
Obviously, the flow is different for every person, but thematically, this is a pretty typical flow for someone who does the work of facing attachments.
While you can realize you are spiritually free RIGHT NOW, the reality is that your biological reality is set up to repeat the loops you know endlessly. Interrupting them and truly being able to be ANYONE takes work.
Online and In-person One-on-one Spiritual Sessions Details
For those in Central Oregon, I do one-on-one sessions in-person. Walking sessions are personal favorites of mine. I do in-person sessions with people from outside the area after we’ve had a few online sessions to get to know one another.
For most of you finding this blog through the Internet, we’ll have online sessions.
They typically last an hour. They can be weekly, biweekly (fortnightly), or monthly.
The first 15 minutes of a new session is guided breathing and general orientation about the space.
At the heart of that orientation is the encouragement to be vulnerable to share what really is going on for you.
That vulnerability creates the topic/topics we need to explore in that moment on that day.
Preparing a list of questions doesn’t help people much. You can do it, but you’re usually interrupting what you actually want to explore in that moment.
A session is a practice in surrendering to the present moment.
That’s why I don’t have a set curriculum. I am surrendering to you.
I am really listening to you.
That deep listening is often both refreshing and challenging for people. You may realize how few people have really been connected to what you are saying and who you are.
Overwhelmed by Gratitude for Your Teacher
After a first session, we can discuss regular sessions. Regular sessions build off the work we discuss in previous sessions. They create their own flow in the process of shedding ego attachments.
The recommended investment for a session is $250 USD. If you can invest more, that’s encouraged because I also allow students to invest less. This is a kind of wealth redistribution project at a micro-level. What matters most is that you are committed.
If you’re interested in a session, once again, the best way to connect with me is signing up to my free newsletter.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Jim Tolles